Women either tremble in fear or are confident with fear.
Self-doubt lives within the mom who attends a parent-teacher conference for her child’s questionable behavior. Alternatively, the mom can attend the same conference with confidence.
A woman can gather fear when she crosses the threshold into her brand new corner office or gather her confidence as she enters that office.
The young teen that slipped on the cafeteria floor grips her shame tightly as she pushes herself up onto her knees and begins to gather her scattered food across the floor, or she can push herself up confidently and brush the shame off.
Arriving at her fifth interview, a young college graduate can smile with trepidation or show confidence as she faces her interviewer.
Confidence is easy for some to carry and increasingly difficult for others.
Just as in the above statements, each woman carries negative thoughts and great potential for confidence. But it’s always a choice: lean into the fear or into the courage.
In the same way, either statement in the examples above could be valid for the same woman depending on time, location, other involved parties, and additional stressors. Though these are external circumstances, confidence comes from within. Your perception, degree of preparedness, and mindfulness affect your confidence level in any situation.
Clients often tell me that they feel most confident when they have a sense of accomplishment. When asked about the experience leading up to the accomplishment, they often responded that they had no choice but to do the scary thing and that there were “no other options.”
Be willing to fail confidently.
What if you approached each situation with the concept that you have no other choice except to do the scary thing?
You might respond by saying, “But, Jordan, I could fail.” Failure is a risk, of course. If failure is the opposite of what you’re looking for, maybe it’s the success you’re after instead of confidence.
When you question yourself, you can still easily hold confidence if you’re willing to fail.
Gaining self-confidence is achievable.
When working with me, you will learn your most vulnerable insecurities as your most courageous opportunities. You will learn coping skills that help you move forward, even with the fear.
The love you carry for yourself will grow immensely in ways you didn’t know could be real. Your self-esteem will improve tremendously. The success you experience in reaching your goals will propel you forward in a life you feel worthy of living.
Those external circumstances will hold far less power when you feel secure in your body, mind, heart, and soul.
What you desire can come true.
I invite you to pause for a moment to imagine your deepest desires. You will only get there by accepting challenges and being willing to trudge through the murky swamps of the darkest parts of you.
If that sounds intimidating, it is. But on this journey, you will feel alive more than you ever would by remaining complacent in a life in which you feel insecure.
Learn to be confident! I will be there to provide light along the path to self-confidence.